|Love, loss, and awakening|
|Our first date, 2000|
Having dated between husbands (age 37 - 44), I understand the
issues of dating at a ripe age, however, Freed seemed to miss the lessons. Most of the work he did was to get his penis back in shape, rather than working on his suitability (mentally, or emotionally), as a partner. We are finally accepting women who choose not to marry, or choose not to have a family, Freed sets back the Women's Movement 50 years! He does go on about his sexual dysfunction.
The book was mildly amusing but disconcerting to me, apparently to his children, and friends, too.
"My dating escapades were the target of jokes from friends and family. I became their entertainment. My sons, in judgement and non-acceptance, either ignored or frowned upon my endeavors and my 'New friends.' "No kidding? Freed's goldfish are a perfect cover image: try one fish once, or twice, throw it back. This, of course, after he'd hooked up with hookers to get his mojo back!
"My choice is to never let my heart be satisfied without another person."
The lessons I learned included the fact that desperation can be smelled by a potential partner. You have to work on being a whole, likable person, with good values. Finding a partner, if you so desire, is more about doing things you enjoy, spending time in the company of friends, and working at being well-adjusted and becoming a person another would enjoy as a friend. Get out and volunteer, you are needed if you have any interests or skills!
From the publisher
Dennis Freed eventually emerged from mourning, his heart ready for life’s next chapter. Nervously, he began to go out with women again, and endured all the awkward—and hilarious—embarrassments a man who hadn’t been on a date in decades might expect. He kept on trying, embracing and trusting the process. Love, Loss, and Awakening chronicles a courageous and uplifting journey through sorrow, the search for new love, and the rediscovery of happiness.