Friday, 31 January 2014

Book Review: Love Me Slender

It intrigued me, especially the PR line:
"The book is practical, helpful and (pardon the pun) easy to digest." 

Written by two highly qualified UCLA Professors, Thomas Bradbury and Benjamin Karney, they draw upon their observations of hundreds of couples to explain why conversations about weight and diet can be so challenging––and how all couples can team up in their pursuit of better health.

Doesn't this make sense? My hubby lost 30 lbs. several years ago. It struck me that it would important to support him as much as I could, even while I was gaining weight after I retired! I've lost 10 lbs. this month. Some days I had to stand back and refocus. I would find myself feeling envious that he managed the self control required to do so, while I was dealing with my own eating issues. 

Many partners enable one another for reasons that revolve around many psycho-social issues: social/emotional and self-centred ego-based reasons. Of course, interpersonal issues are very deep and complex, and it makes sense for couple to be retrained to speak honestly and treat one another with dignity and respect. When one experiences great success, the other is called upon to dig deep and laud this success. But it is difficult. This is the same for weight loss as much as career success, for example. The bottom line around weight loss, we know, can be simplified to: eat properly and exercise more. 
The ideas in this book help with this premise and will assist a couple in getting control.
The conversations are not surprising: 

What does my eating pizza have to do with your diet?!”
“Why are you worried about going to the gym? I think you look fantastic!”
“You’re going to eat that?! Didn’t you say you were trying to lose weight?”


This book, to be published in February, the relationship month, will be a wonderful addition to any couple's library. Heaven knows, we can all use more information and digest it.

Love Me Slender Offers a New Perspective on Health – and Shows How Relationships Enable Healthier Habits:

▪     New Years’ Resolutions are often a distant memory by the time April rolls around.  How can partners recognize and mobilize the strengths in their relationship to help make these healthy resolutions stick?
 
▪     Studies show that couples gain weight as they settle into their relationship, and again after their children are born.  But why are some couples able to counteract this effect?
 
▪     What do partners misunderstand the most when it comes to one another’s health and weight? What are the best approaches to initiating a more productive –– and more compassionate –– dialog?  



Love Me Slender Introduces Surprising New Research on Health and Relationships:

 ▪     Good Health Is Relational”:  How the behaviours that are most central to determining our weight and fitness are inextricably linked to closeness and communication in our intimate relationships.
 
▪     The Halo Effect”:  How both partners benefit even if only one partner resolves to become healthier.
 
▪     Reward Substitution”:  How intimate partners are uniquely positioned to shift each other’s attention toward long-term goals for health, making it easier to resist unhealthy temptations in the moment.
 
▪     Invisible Support”:  How partners can encourage one another in subtle but potent ways, going ‘below the radar’ to avoid the criticism and defensiveness that overt support can elicit.
 
▪     The Boomerang Effect”:  How reassuring and praising our partners can backfire, and why a combination of acceptance and pointed encouragement gives us the support we need to change.



“Love Me Slender: How Smart Couples Team Up to Lose Weight, Exercise More, and Stay Healthy Together.” 

By Thomas Bradbury, PhD, and Benjamin Karney, PhD.  
Publisher: Simon and Schuster/Touchstone / Hardcover Original 9” x 6” 
 Publication Date 4 February 2014 / Language: English
 $25.99 List Price / 320 pages / ISBN 9781451674514

January weather: rain, snow, sleet,

TOTAL : 62 cm!

Jan. 29  snowfall - 30 cm between the big ice storm, and now! There is 54 cm on the ground.
had to shovel snow.

2013    
JAN snow  
  cm  
4-Jan       7  
6-Jan      ice rain
7-Jan    5 snow
9-Jan    7  
18-Jan    8  
19-Jan    5  
27-Jan    30  

January - out like a lion?
Wind warnings, indeed



Jan. 23
More snow.
Jan. 22
Cold weather predictions
jet stream hauls down the cold

Jan. 21 - What a cold morning!
Jan. 20
Jan. 19 - Blowing snow, windy, about 5 cm
Wind chills of minus 30 to 35 tonight and tomorrow morning. An Arctic airmass has settled over Southern Ontario. The combination of cold temperatures and moderate northwesterly winds is expected to produce wind chill values minus 30 or colder. Areas east of a line from Port Carling through Haliburton and Kaladar to Brockville - Leeds and Grenville wind chill values could reach minus 35 or colder.




Jan. 18 - 6cm

Jan. 16th - checked the metre stick, and after last week's melt, we've gone down to about 24cm snow base.
Jan. 9 - 12cm, on top of about 31 cm of a snow base.

Jan. 12



Jan. 10 

A band of freezing rain associated with a warm front will move into the regions from the south tonight. The latest indication is the freezing rain will begin late this evening and end overnight. Depending on the speed of the warm air moving northward the regions may receive 2 to 6 hours of freezing rain. The estimate for ice accumulation on surfaces is 2 to 5 millimetres. Motorists and pedestrians are advised to exercise caution especially on untreated surfaces. Local power outages are possible due to the ice accumulation.

Jan. 6  big melt

What a mess. The Maritimes have had 35,000 without power, this month, from their ice storm, and then dump of snow (30cm?). Toronto has blowing snow, following a melt. We, in SE Ontario, have rain, and 5+ C. temperatures. The eaves are dripping with melting snow. Buses cancelled for school kids.

Happy cats are outside hunting for mice.


Thursday, 30 January 2014

1. Dominion Tankard 2014: Ontario men's curling at Smiths Falls

The snazzy tankard!
The Dominion Tankard 2014 is being held in nearby Smiths Falls. Due to our circumstances, I cannot attend, even though I donated a curling broom, signed by the Ford World 2013 Championship skips. (I'd won it for a photo of Dorah watching curling play on TV!)
cat's play

Ontario Curling has a huge number of teams, with many famous names in the sport.

Scott Howard, son of Glenn Howard; Mark Homan, brother of Ottawa's Rachel Homan, off to the Olympics.

The photos aren't great. I'd forgotten my real camera, and took photos with my videocam. I was on my way to pick up my husband from the hospital and was looking for a brief break.

There were lots of local schools kids (about 450), who were able to attend as a group.

Pink Shirt Day

The pink shirts, worn for the morning draw, will be available for silent auction on Wednesday. They are part of the pink anti-bullying campaign, in support of the national
Gotta love them!
They are for sale!

These shirts will be put up for auction beginning Wednesday afternoon (minimum bid $40). As teams are eliminated the bidding for their shirts will stop, with shirts going to the highest bidder. The bidding for the final 2 teams' shirts will close after the fifth end break in Sunday afternoon's final.
Pink Shirt Day is a nation-wide anti-bullying campaign to bring awareness of the growing issue of bullying in schools. School children have been encouraged to wear pink at the same in support of the campaign. Proceeds of the auction will go to the Kids Help Phone line charity, as will the $5 admission for the school children.

Teams and Skips; schedule here




Security!
On the middle rink,
Team #3 Mark Homan, Rachel Homan's brother.


It's being covered by TVCogeco
(which we don't get!)


Lots of sponsors and raffles!

The famous Skip Glenn Howard
conferring with Middaugh!

2. Dominion Tankard 2014, morning practice videos

I won't have time to attend the match. Instead, I visited the morning draw in Smiths Falls.
I have never attended a curling game! I stayed about 15 minutes, then headed into the city, Ottawa Hospital.
The pink shirts, for the fundraiser, were fun to see!



Dominion Tankard Curling Practice I from Jennifer Jilks on Vimeo.
On a cold day, what better than to go inside a cold arena! Team Howard busily, um, discussing...
Dominion Tankard Curling Practice II from Jennifer Jilks on Vimeo.

3. The Dominion Tankard 2014: luncheon, volunteers

Smiths Falls Curling Club
Cheese please!
I visited the volunteers who were setting up for the luncheon. It was a lovely spirit of preparation.

Curling is big in Smiths Falls. The main events happen at the arena, but the luncheon was at the curling club.
After dropping hubby off at the hospital, I decided to go and see my broom. They weren't set up for the auction yet.
They were set up for the lunch. There are many great volunteers about, making the place look terrific. There were paddles, created
soup bowls good to go

Wednesday, 29 January 2014

Mourning doves in the frigid cold

Another cold one!
"What do you want?"
Another cold one, with wind gusts to blow the snow about. The driveway is centre-bare, but it's built up where the wind has dragged the fluffy flakes across the top of our 54 cm snow base.

I arrived home from the hospital by 10:00 a.m., it was the early bird...

 We taped a message (pre-surgery) for the kids and his cat.

It's amazing how much you can get done when you get up at 4:00 a.m.! The cats were happy to see me. I kicked them outdoors for an hour. They'd given Sady a hard time, although I know she has emotional issues! I had to clean up her throw up (in 3 spots!).

I tried to use the snowblower, but it's frozen. I contacted our small engine repair dude, who popped over, being in the neighbourhood. He said to use my hair dryer on it for a half-hour. Can do. But not today. We expect more snow this weekend. I shall work on that tomorrow. It was good exercise/physical therapy to throw the snow around with the shovel.

Meantime, in the front yard...
 Three mourning doves sitting in a tree. Dang, it's cold. They are happy being in close proximity to the bird feeder. They can see cats coming a mile away!
The sun is wonderful. 

"I'm hungry."
"I'm too warm in the sun to move."
"You go first."

"Nah. I'm having a snooze."

"I'm not moving."

"You woke me up, two-legged one with camera!"

"Maybe I will go have a bite."